How to get on with Everyone – Jeanne Des Baux
This is the little book for you if you are facing problems with the people you come into contact with, or are having problems yourself and know you could do better and do not know how.
It will take you through most of the personality issues people are confronted with and give you a deeper understanding of what is required.
It is a perceptive but light-hearted look at everyday personality traits and stumbling blocks and how to face and cope with them.
With a little patience and perseverance you should be able to master any difficult areas.
After a successful business career, Jeanne trained as a counsellor, psychotherapist and hypnotist. During her sessions, she noticed how many people had the same, or very similar, basic issues, which continually caused them difficulties in their day-to-day lives.
The understanding that most people are short of time prompted this concise and easy to read book, which covers most aspects of communication and interaction in everyday social and work situations.
The aim of the book is to help the reader minimise or even totally eradicate these problem areas.
As well as being useful, it also aims to make you smile.
‘Know thyself…’ – Socrates
‘Self-awareness – recognising a feeling as it happens – is the keystone to emotional intelligence.’ – Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence
One of the first things to do in our quest to get on with other people is to become very self aware. The more we are aware of ourselves the less likely we are to make any social blunders and the more compassion and understanding we will be capable of having for others.
To become self aware we need to monitor
- our own motives,
- feelings and
If we monitor our thoughts we will understand our own motives and reactions to others. If we monitor our feelings we will know what makes us feel happy, sad, angry etc. Each time we understand ourselves a little more we will be able to understand others better. When we understand our own actions and reactions and why they have occurred, we are well on the way to becoming much more empathetic.
To become more self aware takes time and a little application but the rewards are enormous.
Questions to ask ourselves regularly are
- How do I feel?
- Why do I feel this way?
- Could I have handled the last situation/date/meeting/conversation better?
- Would I feel differently motivated now, would I feel better/worse, would the results be better/worse.
- How is the person/people involved likely to feel towards me now?
You do not want to become over anxious about the other people but to be aware of how the other people are likely to feel and react. The ideal is to always do the best we can in any situation and produce the best possible results. If things do not turn out the way you planned you will have the satisfaction of knowing you have done your best and everything possible.